Been thinking about how people say if you want someone to love you, you have to love yourself first cause you can't be loved if you don't love yourself and that always confused me as to why until recently

Basically I figured out that if you don't love yourself, you don't expect that anyone will love you either. So even if someone does love you,you'll begin to have doubts and insecurities about it, and if you let these thoughts take over, you'll snap and they'll get tired of having to be there to constantly reassure you and hold you up

You might be happy at first, but eventually you might smother them if you're not careful

You'll doubt everything they say to you, even if they reassure you that everything is fine, five minutes later you'll be back to a mess

If anyone knows how to STOP doing this, I'd love to hear it cause uh, I'm at a loss