Oh my God yes I'm the same way at school!! I literally successfully talk to 3 people that aren't in my classes and for the rest of the time I'm 100% silent. All of my classes including lunch I either sit alone or I'm thrust into tables with people that don't really know or want to talk to me. I've honestly hit a brick wall, no one approaches and I'm not really sure why, and I have trouble approaching others because anxiety always gets the best of me. I j u s t w a n t t o t a l k t o p e o p l e but apparently the world disagrees with that.

this honestly has me in tears and l know that’s dramatic, but l thought l was the only one. it’s the exact same for me. l only talk in a few classes to certain ppl that l feel a bit more comfortable with but that’s it. l also only talk to my 4 friends, but l have no classes with them so that sucks. ya know tho l always thought l was the only one who was so quiet. it sucks bc l just wanna talk my mouth off, but it’s like there’s this force holding me back. and usually when l talk to ppl who aren’t my friends they don’t listen to me anyway. plus it is so hard to just start talking to ppl alll the time when you’ve never been able to before. and even when you talk they still see you as the quiet person bc that’s who you’ve always been and there’s so little room for change. and ughhh it sucks bc l just wanna talk so badly bc it’d make school 1000000 times better. Also everyone usually ignores me bc they have their own friends and don’t need me. l used to sit alone at lunch, but now I’ve snuck over with my 4 friends so god bless for that. but l also get so ughhh when l see my friends in all of their classes together having a gr8 time and then I’m just silent, bored, and frustrated in all of my classes.

literally everyone asks me why l dont talk.

@caption: 100% agree

it’s hard.

sorry it’s just so nice yet sad to realize that I’m not the only one with these exact problems.

my goal for 2018 is to try and steadily stop being so quiet. not sure how that’ll work but it’s worth a shot.

the thing is it also effects other things like l can’t even do theater bc lm too shy and l want to do it so badly. and just everything.

l feel like l can’t fully be myself unless I’m online. it’s funny bc ppl say ppl act fake on the internet and they aren’t who they say they are, but l feel like I’m the most myself on the internet

tbh l wish l could just talk. but no one usually listens anyway.

it's okay fren, sometimes it takes time to become comfortable in our surroundings. take tiny steps, that's okay. over time, they will all add up, and the outcome is what truly matters.

I'd recommend starting by just friendly gestures at people, like smiling, or some form of acknowledgment, without necessarily speaking. that would make them realize that you're there and friendly and can be approached, and they'll be more likely to initiate friendship with you if they get the vibe that you're kind. take baby steps in finding friendships and talking to people. I met my friends in my classes this year because I smiled at an outgoing girl and was polite to her then became friends, and she introduced me to a lot of other people. I was afraid I would be alone, but it's really great when you have a friend there for you who will step in and be the joint to meeting people and making relationships. outgoing people see smiles as an invitation. just be yourself. I rant about things that don't matter all the time to my friends and I listen to them the same. just have fun with it. don't let your mind tell you that your voice in a conversation isn't relevant

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you're not irrelevant. people might relate to you more than you think, and appearances are often not as they seem. you know you're more than a quiet kid at school so don't assume that everyone at school is judgmental and awful. I bet if you give people a chance and start opening up people will really like you!

A couple of days ago, I️ made the mistake of self promoting my account by copying and pasting a comment. I️ want to specifically thank you for telling me to stop in a very nice way. There was someone who told me to stop in a sarcastic and rude way. Also I️ am soooo sorry for all the trouble! Please have a nice day!

yes same honestly after l moved to my new school.

I totally get that. the best you can do is try to go along with it, I haven’t really found a solution either and my current solution has led me down a tough path. Honestly I’d say try and remember you matter, and your thoughts do too! they matter so dang much. you can also get some nice things from your reputation, people will respect you more when you do talk. try and roll with everything, you can’t change who you are overnight so try your best to make the funny jokes that you do to maybe some other kid at school, they may realise you’re really funny and want to hang out with you. idk I know I sound cheesy rn but my solution is just to roll with it, surprise everyone with snarky comments from the quiet smart kid every now and again and take the respect I get when I ask kids to stop being jerks or making inappropriate jokes.